One day when I was browsing this message board, I came across a post where there was some type of program to get more black females into Silicon Valley. This program was about starting mentorships to get more black females into computer programming. As I read this article, a surge of anger surged through me; as it seems like there is always some type of damn program to help out the, seemingly, super-oppressed black woman, and the under-privileged black girl.
As much as many black women are LOATHED to admit, there are tons upon damn TONS of programs out here that are geared to help out black women and black girls; while there isn’t a damn thing whatsoever out here to help out black boys, and black men. When black women fall down, they have tons of support from society to help them get back on their feet. However, when black men get in trouble, or have ANY type of difficulty out here, they are TRULY on their damn own; without an ounce of damn sympathy from anyone. Hell, not even most black women really care about what happens to black men out here.
When I go outside out here in Oakland, that’s all I damn see is black men sleeping on park benches everywhere. Yet, I can’t even tell you the last damn time I’ve seen a black woman HOMELESS anywhere. Not saying that I would want that to be the case, because I don’t. However, they have all types of support from the damn government, as well as other people to keep them from even having to go that route.
I always hear black women talking about how hard they got because they are black and a damn woman, and all of that mess. However, in reality, it’s because they are black and a damn WOMAN, that they are shielded from many of the things that black men have to face out here. As much as a lot of black women are loathed to admit, they are NOT the most oppressed demographic in American Society. Black MEN are, and they have always been.
Hell, the biggest complaint that I hear coming from many black women out here is when it comes to the dating arena; and even then they are basically talking about who white men are primarily choosing for marriage. Many of them could care less about what brothers want in this day and time. However, I don’t hear many of them complaining about employment, or anything else. Well, until now, that is; but that’s just because all of America is facing unemployment issues.
The only thing that I know, is that every time I go out here to a place of business, if there is a black person working at the place, it is almost ALWAYS a black woman; with hardly no black man in sight. They benefit GREATLY from the minority double-quota. While, at the same time, it’s easier to get a camel through they eye of a damn threading needle, than it is for a nigga to find a nice job out here where I live. In many cases, black men have to basically look into entrepreneurship, or take jobs BELOW their skill-level to even have a damn job period.
There seems to be never-ending shows, documentaries, movies, and every damn thing else that is meant to boost the self-confidence of black women. Hell, look at that show: “Black Girls Rock” for goodness sakes!!
This show did nothing but shed light on the achievements of black women. Which, I don’t have a problem with. However, how in the hell would many black women feel if black men had a show called “Black Men Rock!”? Something tells me, they would complain about it, and throw shade all over the damn show, just like many of them did with the “Million Man March”. Truth be told, I don’t really think that many black women want black men to, truly, get their stuff together. I think that a lot of black women feel kind of smug in the belief of many black men being DYSFUNCTIONAL; as it gives THEM somebody to look down on.
Not to mention, to be so damn “OPPRESSED”, black women sure as hell have a VOICE in the media; something that black men have NEVER had. Everybody tunes in when black women voice their damn concerns, while the voices of black men are damn near MUTED in the media.
I also notice that when it comes to doing ANYTHING for the black community, black women ALWAYS put GENDER before race; as if young black boys don’t need help also. There is something in many black women that causes them to not give a damn about their sons; which is one of the major reasons why many black boys fall off of the bus in the first place. Hell, with the way that many black women talk, you’d think that they were a bunch of damn Amazons who’s only purpose for a man in life is to create more daughters; as many of them don’t seem to give a damn about their sons at all. Then, when these same boys grow up to be failures, or turn to a life of crime, they join in with larger society with their complaints about black men. Sometimes, with the way many black women talk, you’d think they were an entirely different ethnic group from black men. Hell, with the way many of them talk, you’d think you was talking to damn Klan members; due to the way many of them dog out black men so badly.
Even Oprah Winfrey made a school for black girls ONLY. I am like damn Oprah? What about black boys? How on earth can you have a functional community when you are trying to NEGLECT the entire male gender of your race? As much as I hate to say it, I don’t see women of other races blatantly trying to leave their men out like black women do. It just shows a pure HATE for black manhood, in general.
Black boys, and even black men, don’t really HAVE any type of real support group out here; and that’s the truth. In the way of role-models, many black women can look up to their MOTHERS–even if they ARE dysfunctional, at times–on how to be a woman. They can look up to the achievements of their MOTHERS when it comes to going out here and getting theirs. Whereas, black boys, have no damn body to look up to; and in many cases, the streets become their fathers.
It really shows the type of disdain that many black women hold for their male offspring, as well as male counterparts, in general. Not to mention, that it seems like they COMPETE with black men in damn near everything that they do. From dating out, to jobs, to who is the most desired, to has it the easiest in this society, it seems like many of them are competing against black men; instead of looking to work with us. It’s not true of all of them. However, it is definitely true for a sizable portion of them.
I also fault many black men as well, because in all actuality, many black men haven’t really been there for black boys either. Having a black male role-model is CRUCIAL to the upliftment of black boys. I know one thing, if I never would have come across a black man who was a Computer programmer, it is VERY doubtful that I would have went that route. Hell, I wouldn’t have known that it was possible. I thank God every day that I came across the man I did, because it gave me a goal in life to aspire to.
Because of me seeing another black man get a degree in Computer Science, I went on and got one. Many black men don’t have the advantage of seeing that. However, one thing that I do know, is that after I got into computers, every black man that I know got into them with a damn passion; all from seeing one of their own do it.
That’s why black men HAVE to start support groups for black men and boys; as nobody cares about us LIKE us. It’s for certain, that the bulk of our women don’t. I’m sorry, but it’s true. It’s time for black men to start taking OUR OWN concerns seriously; as nobody understands what black men have to face more than other black men do. Quiet as kept, many black women don’t really understand–nor, do they really care–about what black men have to face.
I find it completely unfair that black women can have the freedom to care ONLY about black women, while black men have to care about the entire black community; when it’s black men doing the worst out here. I don’t want to hear black women complain when black men create programs ONLY for black men; as they have been doing things like that ONLY for black women, for damn eons.
It’s time for black men to start taking their OWN concerns seriously.
That is all.